Kulturn\u00ed kriti\u010dka bell hooks (1952\u20132001) n\u00e1m p\u0159ipom\u00edn\u00e1, \u017ee je t\u0159eba p\u011bstovat sebel\u00e1sku, kter\u00e1 je na\u0161\u00edm p\u0159irozen\u00fdm pr\u00e1vem: <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Sebel\u00e1ska je z\u00e1kladem na\u0161\u00ed praxe l\u00e1sky. Bez n\u00ed selh\u00e1vaj\u00ed v\u0161echny na\u0161e ostatn\u00ed snahy milovat. Kdy\u017e d\u00e1v\u00e1me l\u00e1sku sami sob\u011b, poskytujeme sv\u00e9mu vnit\u0159n\u00edmu j\u00e1 p\u0159\u00edle\u017eitost za\u017e\u00edt bezpodm\u00edne\u010dnou l\u00e1sku, po kter\u00e9 jsme mo\u017en\u00e1 v\u017edy tou\u017eili od n\u011bkoho jin\u00e9ho… M\u016f\u017eeme si d\u00e1t bezpodm\u00edne\u010dnou l\u00e1sku, kter\u00e1 je z\u00e1kladem trval\u00e9ho p\u0159ijet\u00ed a uzn\u00e1n\u00ed. Kdy\u017e si d\u00e1me tento vz\u00e1cn\u00fd dar, jsme schopni oslovit ostatn\u00ed z m\u00edsta napln\u011bn\u00ed, a ne z m\u00edsta nedostatku…<\/p>\n\n\n\n V ide\u00e1ln\u00edm sv\u011bt\u011b bychom se v\u0161ichni v d\u011btstv\u00ed nau\u010dili milovat sami sebe. Rostli bychom, byli bychom si jisti svou hodnotou a v\u00fdznamem, \u0161\u00ed\u0159ili bychom l\u00e1sku, kamkoli bychom \u0161li, a nechali bychom z\u00e1\u0159it sv\u00e9 sv\u011btlo. Pokud jsme se v ml\u00e1d\u00ed nenau\u010dili milovat sami sebe, st\u00e1le je nad\u011bje. Sv\u011btlo l\u00e1sky je v\u017edy v n\u00e1s, bez ohledu na to, jak studen\u00fd je plamen. Je v\u017edy p\u0159\u00edtomn\u00e9, \u010dek\u00e1 na jiskru, kter\u00e1 ho zap\u00e1l\u00ed, \u010dek\u00e1, a\u017e se probud\u00ed srdce a zavol\u00e1 n\u00e1s zp\u011bt k prvn\u00ed vzpom\u00ednce na to, jak jsme byli \u017eivotn\u00ed silou uvnit\u0159 temn\u00e9ho m\u00edsta, \u010dekaj\u00edc\u00ed na zrozen\u00ed \u2013 \u010dekaj\u00edc\u00ed na to, a\u017e uvid\u00edme sv\u011btlo. [1] <\/p>\n\n\n\n Feministick\u00e1 autorka Audre Lorde (1934\u20131992) zd\u016fraz\u0148uje pot\u0159ebu praktikovat sebel\u00e1sku, zejm\u00e9na pro komunity, kter\u00fdm byla takov\u00e1 l\u00e1ska nebo n\u011bha \u010dasto up\u00edr\u00e1na:<\/em>\u202f\u202f<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Mus\u00edm se nau\u010dit milovat sama sebe, ne\u017e budu moci milovat tebe nebo p\u0159ijmout tvou l\u00e1sku. Mus\u00ed\u0161 se nau\u010dit milovat s\u00e1m sebe, ne\u017e bude\u0161 moci milovat m\u011b nebo p\u0159ijmout mou l\u00e1sku… Dosud n\u00e1s m\u00e1lokdo u\u010dil, jak b\u00fdt k sob\u011b navz\u00e1jem laskav\u00ed. K ostatn\u00edmu sv\u011btu ano, ale ne k sob\u011b sam\u00fdm. Existuje jen m\u00e1lo vn\u011bj\u0161\u00edch p\u0159\u00edklad\u016f toho, jak zach\u00e1zet s jinou \u010dernou \u017eenou s laskavost\u00ed, \u00factou, n\u011bhou nebo vd\u011b\u010dn\u00fdm \u00fasm\u011bvem, jen proto, \u017ee JE; porozum\u011bn\u00ed vz\u00e1jemn\u00fdm nedostatk\u016fm, proto\u017ee jsme sami byli n\u011bkde bl\u00edzko tomu.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Kdy jste naposledy pochv\u00e1lila jinou sestru, ocenila jej\u00ed v\u00fdjime\u010dnost? Mus\u00edme se v\u011bdom\u011b u\u010dit, jak b\u00fdt k sob\u011b navz\u00e1jem n\u011b\u017en\u00e9, dokud se to nestane zvykem, proto\u017ee to, co n\u00e1m bylo vlastn\u00ed, n\u00e1m bylo ukradeno \u2013 l\u00e1ska \u010dern\u00fdch \u017een k sob\u011b navz\u00e1jem. Ale m\u016f\u017eeme se u\u010dit b\u00fdt k sob\u011b n\u011b\u017en\u00e9 t\u00edm, \u017ee budeme n\u011b\u017en\u00e9 k sob\u011b navz\u00e1jem. M\u016f\u017eeme se u\u010dit b\u00fdt k sob\u011b navz\u00e1jem laskav\u00e9 t\u00edm, \u017ee budeme laskav\u00e9 k t\u00e9 \u010d\u00e1sti sebe sam\u00fdch, kter\u00e1 je nejt\u011b\u017e\u0161\u00ed udr\u017eet, t\u00edm, \u017ee d\u00e1me v\u00edce t\u00e9 state\u010dn\u00e9, zran\u011bn\u00e9 hol\u010di\u010dce v ka\u017ed\u00e9 z n\u00e1s, t\u00edm, \u017ee budeme o\u010dek\u00e1vat o n\u011bco m\u00e9n\u011b od jej\u00edch obrovsk\u00fdch snah vyniknout. M\u016f\u017eeme ji milovat ve sv\u011btle i ve tm\u011b, uklidnit jej\u00ed touhu po dokonalosti a povzbuzovat ji, aby se soust\u0159edila na napln\u011bn\u00ed. Mo\u017en\u00e1 pak v\u00edce ocen\u00edme, kolik n\u00e1s nau\u010dila a kolik d\u011bl\u00e1 pro to, aby se tento sv\u011bt ub\u00edral sm\u011brem k n\u011bjak\u00e9 \u017eivotaschopn\u00e9 budoucnosti. [2]\u202f<\/p>\n\n\n\n Translated with DeepL.com (free version)<\/p>\n\n\n\n [1] bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions<\/em> (William Morrow, 2000), 67, 68.\u202f <\/p>\n\n\n\n [2] Audre Lorde, \u201cEye to Eye: Black Women, Hatred, and Anger,\u201d in Sister Outsider: Essays and Speeches<\/em>, rev. ed. <\/em>(Crossing Press, 2007), <\/em>174, 175. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Image credit and inspiration<\/strong>: Sankhadeep Barman, untitled <\/em>(detail), 2019, photo, Unsplash<\/a>. Click here to enlarge image<\/a>. The person lingers in awe, wholly present with the flowers, letting herself be consumed by their quiet beauty, choosing to behold and simply be with them.<\/em> <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" V ide\u00e1ln\u00edm sv\u011bt\u011b bychom se v\u0161ichni v d\u011btstv\u00ed nau\u010dili milovat sami sebe. Rostli bychom, byli bychom si jisti svou hodnotou a v\u00fdznamem, \u0161\u00ed\u0159ili bychom l\u00e1sku, kamkoli bychom \u0161li, a nechali bychom z\u00e1\u0159it sv\u00e9 sv\u011btlo. Pokud jsme se v ml\u00e1d\u00ed nenau\u010dili milovat sami sebe, st\u00e1le je nad\u011bje.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":12754,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[198],"tags":[154,1114],"class_list":["post-12778","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-richard-rohr-ofm-centrum-pro-zivot-a-rozjimani","tag-laska","tag-milovat-sebe","latest_post"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.frantiskani.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12778","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.frantiskani.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.frantiskani.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.frantiskani.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.frantiskani.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=12778"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.frantiskani.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12778\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":12779,"href":"https:\/\/www.frantiskani.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/12778\/revisions\/12779"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.frantiskani.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/12754"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.frantiskani.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=12778"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.frantiskani.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=12778"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.frantiskani.cz\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=12778"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}Sebel\u00e1ska je z\u00e1kladem l\u00e1sky<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Nau\u010dit se milovat v d\u011btstv\u00ed<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
B\u00fdt k sob\u011b laskav\u00ed<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Milovat sv\u00e9 zran\u011bn\u00ed<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Prameny:<\/h6>\n\n\n\n