Otec Richard se zam\u00fd\u0161l\u00ed nad t\u00edm, jak rovnov\u00e1ha mezi bezpodm\u00edne\u010dnou a podm\u00edn\u011bnou l\u00e1skou slou\u017e\u00ed r\u016fstu v prvn\u00ed polovin\u011b \u017eivota: <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Jedin\u00ed \u0161\u0165astn\u00ed lid\u00e9, kter\u00e9 jsem poznal, jsou ti, kte\u0159\u00ed na\u0161li n\u011bjak\u00fd zp\u016fsob, jak slou\u017eit. Takov\u00ed lid\u00e9 se nezab\u00fdvaj\u00ed vlastn\u00edm obrazem, \u00fasp\u011bchem a moc\u00ed. Mnoz\u00ed z n\u00e1s za\u010d\u00ednali s tradi\u010dn\u00edmi pravidly, discipl\u00ednou a strukturou, kter\u00e9 vytv\u00e1\u0159ely jakousi kompresn\u00ed komoru, \u010dasto zalo\u017eenou na vylou\u010den\u00ed. Jak rosteme, st\u00e1v\u00e1 se tato komora t\u011bsnou a t\u00edsnivou, a tak za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1me praktikovat to, \u010demu \u0159\u00edk\u00e1me „posv\u00e1tn\u00e9 ne“, proti samo\u00fa\u010deln\u00fdm z\u00e1kon\u016fm, tradic\u00edm a kulturn\u00edm zvyklostem, kter\u00e9 se vyd\u00e1vaj\u00ed za Bo\u017e\u00ed v\u016fli. U\u017e nejsme ochotni podporovat status quo a v\u011b\u0159it, \u017ee to je v\u0161e, co k \u017eivotu pat\u0159\u00ed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Zd\u00e1 se, \u017ee mnoho lid\u00ed vychovan\u00fdch v na\u0161\u00ed kultu\u0159e v posledn\u00edch desetilet\u00edch vyrostlo pozp\u00e1tku t\u00edm, \u017ee za\u010dali „liber\u00e1ln\u011b“. To ponech\u00e1v\u00e1 neobr\u00e1cen\u00e9 ego v pozici, kdy rozhoduje. Nemysl\u00edm si, \u017ee sv\u00fdm d\u011btem prokazujeme n\u011bjakou laskavost, kdy\u017e je vychov\u00e1v\u00e1me bez hranic a pravidel a do zna\u010dn\u00e9 m\u00edry je nech\u00e1v\u00e1me, aby se samy rozhodly, co je pro n\u011b spr\u00e1vn\u00e9. V podstat\u011b po nich chceme, aby za\u010d\u00ednaly od nuly. V p\u0159ehnan\u00e9 reakci na p\u0159edchoz\u00ed generaci se rodi\u010de a c\u00edrkev usilovn\u011b sna\u017e\u00ed milovat bezpodm\u00edne\u010dn\u011b. V\u00edm to z vlastn\u00ed zku\u0161enosti s mlad\u00fdmi lidmi v komunit\u011b Nov\u00fd Jeruzal\u00e9m v prvn\u00edch letech m\u00e9ho kn\u011b\u017esk\u00e9ho p\u016fsoben\u00ed. Donekone\u010dna jsem k\u00e1zal o Bo\u017e\u00ed bezpodm\u00edne\u010dn\u00e9 l\u00e1sce. Abych byl up\u0159\u00edmn\u00fd, a\u010dkoli jsme p\u0159it\u00e1hli tis\u00edce mlad\u00fdch lid\u00ed, v\u011bt\u0161ina z nich to nedot\u00e1hla p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 daleko, pokud jde o hlubokou a trvalou prom\u011bnu nebo slu\u017ebu sv\u011btu. <\/p>\n\n\n\n Pokud si vyp\u016fj\u010d\u00edm my\u0161lenku z klasick\u00e9 knihy Ericha Fromma Um\u011bn\u00ed milovat, v\u011b\u0159\u00edm, \u017ee nejzdrav\u011bj\u0161\u00ed lid\u00e9 jsou ti, kte\u0159\u00ed od sv\u00fdch dvou rodi\u010d\u016f a ran\u00fdch autorit obdr\u017eeli kombinaci bezpodm\u00edne\u010dn\u00e9 a podm\u00edn\u011bn\u00e9 l\u00e1sky. Zd\u00e1 se, \u017ee to plat\u00ed o mnoha \u00fa\u010dinn\u00fdch a vlivn\u00fdch lidech, jako byli svat\u00fd Franti\u0161ek, John Muir, Eleanor Rooseveltov\u00e1 a Matka Tereza. V\u00edm, \u017ee j\u00e1 a moji sourozenci jsme od matky dost\u00e1vali podm\u00edn\u011bnou l\u00e1sku a od otce bezpodm\u00edne\u010dnou. V\u0161ichni dnes p\u0159izn\u00e1v\u00e1me, \u017ee n\u00e1m m\u00e1minu n\u00e1ro\u010dnou l\u00e1sku pozd\u011bji v \u017eivot\u011b velmi dob\u0159e poslou\u017eila, i kdy\u017e jsme s n\u00ed v ml\u00e1d\u00ed ur\u010dit\u011b bojovali. A byli jsme r\u00e1di, \u017ee tu byl tat\u00ednek, aby ji vyva\u017eoval.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Zd\u00e1 se, \u017ee pot\u0159ebujeme r\u00e1kosku, ze\u010f, o kterou se m\u016f\u017eeme op\u0159\u00edt, abychom si vytvo\u0159ili spr\u00e1vnou strukturu ega a silnou identitu. Takovou oporou je zp\u016fsob, jak si zvnit\u0159nit vlastn\u00ed hlub\u0161\u00ed hodnoty, vychovat si pocitovou funkci a svrhnout vlastn\u00ed narcismus. V\u0161ichni pot\u0159ebujeme zvnit\u0159nit posv\u00e1tn\u00e9 ne sv\u00e9 p\u0159irozen\u00e9 egocentri\u010dnosti. Zd\u00e1 se, \u017ee pot\u0159ebujeme ur\u010ditou m\u00edru frustrace, ur\u010ditou m\u00edru nenapln\u011bn\u00ed na\u0161ich pot\u0159eb. Pak si uv\u011bdom\u00edme, \u017ee existuj\u00ed i jin\u00ed lid\u00e9, kte\u0159\u00ed maj\u00ed tak\u00e9 pot\u0159eby, touhy a pocity. Jak mi \u0159\u00edkala moje matka: „Dickie, tvoje pr\u00e1va kon\u010d\u00ed na konci tv\u00e9ho nosu, tam za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 nos n\u011bkoho jin\u00e9ho.“ A tak jsem si uv\u011bdomil, \u017ee je to pravda.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Translated with www.DeepL.com\/Translator (free version), mezinadpisy si dovolil vlo\u017eit p\u0159ekladatel<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Adapted from Richard Rohr, Essential Teachings on Love<\/a><\/em>, selected by Joelle Chase and Judy Traeger (Maryknoll, NY: Orbis Books, 2018), 15\u201316. Zd\u00e1 se, \u017ee pot\u0159ebujeme r\u00e1kosku, ze\u010f, o kterou se m\u016f\u017eeme op\u0159\u00edt, abychom si vytvo\u0159ili spr\u00e1vnou strukturu ega a silnou identitu. Takovou oporou je zp\u016fsob, jak si zvnit\u0159nit vlastn\u00ed hlub\u0161\u00ed hodnoty, vychovat si pocitovou funkci a svrhnout vlastn\u00ed narcismus. V\u0161ichni pot\u0159ebujeme zvnit\u0159nit posv\u00e1tn\u00e9 ne sv\u00e9 p\u0159irozen\u00e9 egocentri\u010dnosti. Zd\u00e1 se, \u017ee pot\u0159ebujeme ur\u010ditou m\u00edru frustrace, ur\u010ditou m\u00edru nenapln\u011bn\u00ed na\u0161ich pot\u0159eb. Pak si uv\u011bdom\u00edme, \u017ee existuj\u00ed i jin\u00ed lid\u00e9, kte\u0159\u00ed maj\u00ed tak\u00e9 pot\u0159eby, touhy a pocity. 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Vychov\u00e1vat d\u011bti bez podm\u00ednek nep\u0159ineslo v\u00edc lid\u00ed do slu\u017eby druh\u00fdm<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Zd\u00e1 se, \u017ee nejlep\u0161\u00ed v\u00fdchova je kombinace bezpodm\u00edne\u010dn\u00e9 a podm\u00edn\u011bn\u00e9 l\u00e1sky<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Dickie, tvoje pr\u00e1va kon\u010d\u00ed na konci tv\u00e9ho nosu, tam za\u010d\u00edn\u00e1 nos n\u011bkoho jin\u00e9ho.<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Prameny:<\/h6>\n\n\n\n
Image credit:<\/strong> A path from one week to the next\u2014Benjamin Yazza, Untitled 13 <\/em>and 7<\/em>. Jenna Keiper, Bisti Badlands. <\/em>Used with permission. Click here to enlarge image<\/a>.
A hawk judges its environment for survival and eventually takes flight.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"