Michelle Scheidtov\u00e1 si v\u0161\u00edm\u00e1, \u017ee n\u011bkter\u00e9 queer a jin\u00e9 LGBTQIA+ osoby [1] proces objevov\u00e1n\u00ed jejich sexuality a identity vyb\u00edz\u00ed k „p\u00e1du vzh\u016fru“:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
P\u0159esun do druh\u00e9 [poloviny \u017eivota] je obvykle katalyzov\u00e1n \u017eivotn\u00ed ud\u00e1lost\u00ed nebo s\u00e9ri\u00ed zku\u0161enost\u00ed, kter\u00e9 se n\u00e1s dotknou v j\u00e1dru, zneklidn\u00ed n\u00e1s a donut\u00ed n\u00e1s nov\u011b uspo\u0159\u00e1dat a d\u00e1t si smysl. Tyto destabilizuj\u00edc\u00ed ud\u00e1losti mohou p\u0159in\u00e9st hlubokou bolest nebo intenzivn\u00ed radost…..<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Vyjedn\u00e1v\u00e1n\u00ed o nich a jejich nov\u00e9 uspo\u0159\u00e1d\u00e1n\u00ed n\u00e1s m\u016f\u017ee posunout do druh\u00e9 poloviny \u017eivota, co\u017e je posun, kter\u00fd se t\u00fdk\u00e1 na\u0161\u00ed vnit\u0159n\u00ed pr\u00e1ce, nikoliv na\u0161eho chronologick\u00e9ho v\u011bku.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
U queer lid\u00ed m\u016f\u017ee b\u00fdt tento proces [p\u00e1du vzh\u016fru] katalyzov\u00e1n objeven\u00edm na\u0161\u00ed sexuality nebo genderov\u00e9 identity a n\u00e1sledn\u00fdm u\u010den\u00edm se orientovat ve sv\u011bt\u011b s touto identitou.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Toto zji\u0161t\u011bn\u00ed, a\u0165 u\u017e je v jak\u00e9mkoli v\u011bku, je \u010dasto destabilizuj\u00edc\u00ed, dokonce traumatizuj\u00edc\u00ed, proto\u017ee se u\u010d\u00edme zt\u011bles\u0148ovat identitu, kter\u00e1 p\u0159ekra\u010duje hranice spole\u010densky uzn\u00e1van\u00fdch norem. Zji\u0161\u0165ujeme, \u017ee dominantn\u00ed spole\u010densk\u00e1 pravidla pro n\u00e1s nefunguj\u00ed, proto\u017ee m\u00e1me radik\u00e1ln\u011b odli\u0161nou zku\u0161enost s rodinou, pohlav\u00edm nebo l\u00e1skou. [2]<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Pastorka a kaplanka newyorsk\u00e9 policie Ann Kansfieldov\u00e1 popisuje, jak se v ml\u00e1d\u00ed sna\u017eila „zapadnout“, dokud se nerozhodla \u017e\u00edt autenti\u010dt\u011bji:<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Jako d\u00edt\u011b jsem ve \u0161kole p\u0159\u00edli\u0161 nezapadala. Byla jsem ne\u0161ikovn\u00e1. U\u017e ve t\u0159et\u00ed t\u0159\u00edd\u011b jsem byla genderov\u011b nepo\u0159\u00e1dn\u00e1. Tak\u017ee, jak se dalo \u010dekat, byla jsem nemilosrdn\u011b \u0161ikanov\u00e1na. Sna\u017eila jsem se b\u00fdt autentick\u00e1, ale… b\u00fdt autentick\u00e1 byla v\u017edycky \u0161patn\u00e1 odpov\u011b\u010f. Spolu\u017e\u00e1ci cht\u011bli konformitu, … p\u0159esto jsem to ani ve v\u011bku, kdy vl\u00e1dl tlak vrstevn\u00edk\u016f, nedok\u00e1zala. Byl jsem jin\u00fd v tolika divok\u00fdch a \u00fa\u017easn\u00fdch v\u011bcech. Nap\u0159\u00edklad jsem m\u011bla r\u00e1da kostel….<\/p>\n\n\n\n Tolik jsem se sna\u017eila zapadnout mezi ostatn\u00ed, ale rozhodn\u011b jsem nebyla cool. \u017d\u00e1dn\u00e9 m\u00f3dn\u00ed l\u00ed\u010den\u00ed ani m\u00f3dn\u00ed \u0161aty nedok\u00e1zaly zakr\u00fdt skute\u010dnost, \u017ee mi \u017eenskost unik\u00e1. Skr\u00fdvat se znamenalo hr\u00e1t malou hru, a to nebyla hra z\u00e1bavn\u00e1. V\u00fdsledkem bylo, \u017ee jsem se s nik\u00fdm nebavila. M\u016fj nedostatek autenticity dr\u017eel lidi v odstupu. Teprve kdy\u017e jsem za\u010dala p\u0159ij\u00edmat to, k\u00fdm skute\u010dn\u011b jsem – up\u0159\u00edmnou, k\u0159ehkou, zranitelnou a hluboce lidskou osobu -, za\u010dala jsem skute\u010dn\u011b pro\u017e\u00edvat \u017eivot. Kdy\u017e jsem se cvi\u010dila ve sd\u00edlen\u00ed sv\u00e9ho autentick\u00e9ho j\u00e1 s ostatn\u00edmi, v\u0161imla jsem si, \u017ee lid\u00e9 se mnou sd\u00edlej\u00ed v\u00edce sebe sama. Kdy\u017e jsem sd\u00edlela sv\u00e9 prav\u00e9 j\u00e1, ostatn\u00ed se mnou sd\u00edleli sv\u00e9 prav\u00e9 j\u00e1. A v tomto procesu se \u017eivot kolem m\u011b stal… no… \u017eiv\u011bj\u0161\u00edm….. [3]<\/p>\n\n\n\n Thomas Merton ve sv\u00e9 knize Nov\u00e1 semena kontemplace poznamenal, \u017ee strom vzd\u00e1v\u00e1 sl\u00e1vu Bohu t\u00edm, \u017ee je stromem. [4] Tuto v\u011btu si \u010dasto v hlav\u011b recituji jako mantru, abych si p\u0159ipomn\u011bla, \u017ee m\u00fdm jedin\u00fdm \u00fakolem je b\u00fdt s\u00e1m sebou. Zjistila jsem, \u017ee \u010d\u00edm v\u00edce p\u0159ij\u00edm\u00e1m osobu, kterou m\u011b B\u016fh stvo\u0159il, t\u00edm v\u00edce jsem schopna milovat Boha. A to je vlastn\u011b to jedin\u00e9, co mohu Bohu a sv\u011btu nab\u00eddnout. [5]<\/p>\n\n\n\n [1] The word queer <\/em>is used intentionally in this article to refer to people who identify as LGBTQIA+: lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer, questioning, intersex, asexual, agender, and others whose identities are outside of heteronormative, binary gender or sexuality. Queer <\/em>was once a pejorative term used in ridicule, but today the word has been reclaimed as an expression of LGBTQIA+ pride.<\/p>\n\n\n\n [2] Michelle A. Scheidt, \u201cQueer Paths in the Two Halves of Life,\u201d Oneing<\/u><\/em> 11, no. 2, Falling Upward<\/em><\/u> <\/em><\/a>(Fall 2023): 30\u201331. Available in print<\/a> and PDF download<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n [3] Ann Kansfield with Marty St. George, Be the Brave One: Living Your Spiritual Values Out Loud and Other Life Lessons <\/em>(Minneapolis, MN: Broadleaf Books, 2021), 9, 3.<\/p>\n\n\n\n [4] Thomas Merton, New Seeds of Contemplation <\/em>(New York: New Directions, 1972), 29.<\/p>\n\n\n\n [5] Kansfield, Be the Brave One<\/em>, 177.<\/p>\n\n\n\n Image credit: <\/strong>A path from one week to the next\u2014Lo\u00efs Mailou Jones, Eglise Saint Joseph<\/em><\/a> (detail), 1954, oil on canvas. Alma Thomas, Red Abstraction<\/em><\/a> (detail), 1959, oil on canvas. Lo\u00efs Mailou Jones, Shapes and Colors<\/em><\/a> (detail), 1958, watercolor on paper. Click here to enlarge image<\/a>.<\/p>\n\n\n\n As we journey through life, we begin to apply the colors of our experience with more depth, expansiveness and skill.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Teprve kdy\u017e jsem za\u010dala p\u0159ij\u00edmat to, k\u00fdm skute\u010dn\u011b jsem – up\u0159\u00edmnou, k\u0159ehkou, zranitelnou a hluboce lidskou osobu -, za\u010dala jsem skute\u010dn\u011b pro\u017e\u00edvat \u017eivot. Kdy\u017e jsem se cvi\u010dila ve sd\u00edlen\u00ed sv\u00e9ho autentick\u00e9ho j\u00e1 s ostatn\u00edmi, v\u0161imla jsem si, \u017ee lid\u00e9 se mnou sd\u00edlej\u00ed v\u00edce sebe sama. Kdy\u017e jsem sd\u00edlela sv\u00e9 prav\u00e9 j\u00e1, ostatn\u00ed se mnou sd\u00edleli sv\u00e9 prav\u00e9 j\u00e1. A v tomto procesu se \u017eivot kolem m\u011b stal… no… \u017eiv\u011bj\u0161\u00edm….. 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Sd\u00edlen\u00ed se s druh\u00fdmi<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
P\u0159ijmout sebe a milovat Boha<\/h4>\n\n\n\n
Prameny:<\/h6>\n\n\n\n